Yikes… Where is that, so I can avoid the area?

I’ve been around the ones in West Denver mainly and the impression I get is that people can wear largely whatever as long as they’re doing their jobs, I could be wrong though

“Can we move the widget to the left side of the page” is not in the same category as “what is a hash” though?

Sure but as I said, that’s a knowledge question and not an engineering problem to solve. They’re very different and unless you work in software consulting, you’re not gonna get a problem that looks remotely like that from a client.

The amount of personal expression allowed is honestly impressive, and I love it. I saw an androgynous person wearing mild BDSM accessories working there and my thoughts were “go you, I’m so glad you’re allowed to be yourself in the workplace.”

Hopefully that kind of stuff can spread and we can get rid of treating workers as soulless drones elsewhere too.

I mean I’d probably go super generic and say something like “it’s a deterministic function which turns a block of data into a usually smaller block of data, usually for comparing equality to the original block of data” which covers most of the uses?

If you ask a generic question, you’re gonna get a broad answer, and if you want to draw clarifying questions, you need to ask a more complex question and provide insufficient information to answer it. Even then, making that question something you can easily look up online, and you either know or you don’t, doesn’t achieve as much as making the question something that you objectively won’t know, and have to learn on the spot, as that shows your ability to learn new things including things you can look up on the Internet.

I thought they grew them to have no spice for standardization, then added capsacin so that they were always the same heat level?

I mean at the same time, if it’s possible that regular people who actually shop around are shown lower fares and business travelers paid for by the company are shown higher fares, I’m all for that sort of subsidization, as unlikely as it is to be the reality

I think it’s harsh on to call it erasure, but completely understand that in effect it’s the same thing, because to me it seems people are hostile because what you’re saying doesn’t match their lived experiences, and so they’re saying “that’s not how it is” because they believe that you’re pre-judging situations based on how you think people will react to neurodivergent people, when that’s not the case at all. I like to think it comes from a place of good intentions, but yeah in reality it’s no different to saying “just cheer up” to a depressed person, when it’s really not that easy or how it works. The most important thing is that as irritating as it is, harboring resentment over this kind of thing helps nobody, and the best thing you can do is accept that they’re trying (badly) to help, and that they just don’t fully understand what the issue is.

Yeah, I completely agree, but it also doesn’t mean that the people who don’t have that connection to you suddenly aren’t willing to help their community, it just means that you have trouble integrating into communities, which is very valid and I can completely relate and understand, as that’s kind of how being neurodivergent works.

As much as it sucks to hear, it’s absolutely an “it’s not them, it’s you” situation, and I’ve been in the same position, and still do get in the same position, where I’m feeling out of place, unsure what to do and unwelcome, and very sensitive to confirmations of that, which is part of at least my experience of being autistic, but I’ve learnt that a lot of the times you don’t actually have to pick up on social cues or whatever to make connections, as most people aren’t even that invested anyway, and to most people talking to someone, even if they’re weird, is better than talking to nobody. You may say “but everyone’s already got friends they’re always with” but even that’s just an autistic lens over it, as you’re just noticing when other people are having conversations but not you. And it doesn’t have to be everyone. Like you said yourself, being a friend of a friend goes a long way, so if you just have a few connections with people who are friendlier or more similar to you, then that just gets you into circles. You won’t exactly be neurotypical all of a sudden, but it definitely helps with feeling less different or isolated.

Thing is, like you say, they’re willing to help a friend of a friend, but frankly the bar for a friend is pretty low for a lot of people. As someone who’s also neurodivergent and has had approximately three friends on average for most of my life, but recently moved to America and so had a full reset, I’ve been reminded that the majority of people like to think they’re good people, even if they have questionable beliefs or cut you off in traffic or whatever, and thay extends to helping out people that they know.

Given I’ve been in the country a month, have autism, and live out of the city, I’m probably as in the group you describe as you can get, but I’m still fairly confident if I needed a neighbor to take me to hospital, or someone to help me move a couch, or whatever else, I could find them even through work or the neighborhood pretty quickly, as it just takes one connection to flip a switch in people’s brains from “fuck that guy” to “they’re in my tribe, I’ll help them”